Moving country sounds like such an awesome idea; you’ll meet new people, change your way of thinking, get more opportunities and discover a new way of life. But it’s not as easy as some people make it out to be. Especially at the beginning, when all the life admin is screaming your name.
Before we moved over, Sara did some research, Amber did very, very little. Luckily moving to Australia is very easy for New Zealand citizens. We literally booked one way tickets then marked Permanent on the arrival cards and rolled our four jumbo suitcases through the doors onto Australian soil.
Despite all the advice we were given, there are a few unexpected things we’ve learnt along the way, which you may find helpful if you’re thinking about moving too…
- You realise you can reinvent yourself
When you move to a new country, nobody knows you. They don’t know about that embarrassing thing you did when you were drunk, nor do they know about that time you came third in a national lip-sync competition. You’re an anonymous being who can be exactly who you want to be. Bring on the very best version of yourself!
- Everyone is a potential friend
It’s a lot tougher than you think, not having your social circles around. So when a mutual friend invites you to a pub quiz, it’s probably going to be the highlight of your week. To stop you going crazy from loneliness, you are forced to start up conversations with strangers in random places in attempt to make new friends, which you never would have done or needed to do at home. Nevertheless, this is a great way to meet new people and they’re mostly very inviting when you tell them you’re new.
- Massive unexpected FOMO kicks in
Social media is addictive, and between all the time exploring and waiting for your next job interview, you’re going to have a lot of time to check your Snapchat stories. Although you’re experiencing new things everyday and updating your friends with amazing photos on Instagram, you’re still going to feel massive FOMO when you see photos of them having the time of your life at your favourite band without you. Life does go on when you’re not there. Stay focused on your adventure, remind yourself why you’re there and try not checking social media too often!
- Job hunting will mentally break you
Unless you move overseas with a job lined up, job hunting will be the hardest thing about the change. It’s extremely mentally challenging sending off application after application and receiving next to nothing in return. You might have the right qualifications and experience but business is all about ‘who-you-know’, so start working on those connections quick!
- You will have to find a new favourite everything
One thing I never thought I’d miss when I moved overseas was my favourite brands. All the comforting food from your childhood, gone. Your favourite moisturiser, gone. And even your toothpaste brand, that’s right, gone. Although trying new things is exciting, sometimes you just want your favourite, comforting bliss balls. Also there are a lot of brands to go through until you find your new go-to. It’s very random… but true!
- A lot of it is just same shit, new place
We all get jealous when we see a friend move somewhere new and fantastic, we all want to have a crazy time in this life. But unless you’re loaded and can afford to jump straight into the good stuff, there’s a lot of boring adulting that has to be done, just like back home in your regular life – finding a somewhere to live, someone to employ and pay you (this part is key), organising new bank accounts for aforementioned pay, setting up Internet…phone plans…all that unglamorous stuff. You might be staying home re-watching old TV shows, eating baked potatoes for a while. And when you stay home on a Friday night is no more exciting in Melbourne as it is in Grey Lynn.
- Language barrier
Doona, bottle-o, texta, Aldi, heaps good, eskie, kent…what kinda English are you speaking mate? Okay, once you get over their accents, it’s not that hard to figure out what Aussies are saying. But again, if you were moving somewhere that doesn’t speak your mother tongue, there’s the obvious issue of language. I think a lot of it goes beyond just speaking the language, a lot of countries have different dialects and slang, not to mention how anyone speaking another language sounds like they’re talking double time.
- Your parents want to talk to you all of a sudden
When I was flatting back home my family didn’t really appreciate my home visits. It might’ve been because I always visited on the weekend, and I was always hungover on the weekend, and I’m not fun when I’m hungover. Who knows though, there’s no science to it. But when you move overseas your family are wanting to get in touch all the time, to make sure you’re eating, sleeping under a roof, basically still alive. Just follow me on Instagram mum!